“Whatever we focus on is bound to expand. Where we see the negative, we call forth more negative. And where we see the positive, we call forth more positive.” Marianne Williamson
Before you are able to move forward and begin to work toward independence; it’s important to focus on the positives that you can take from your situation and show gratitude for what you have, even if it’s not where you want to be.
Being financially dependent may have meant that you are/were able to:
- survive, and maybe even thrive, in difficult situations;
- create the best possible home and life that you can for yourself, your family and those around you;
- realize that you are worthy, regardless of the situation you are in;
- have gratitude for the person you are dependent on — your partner, your boss, the company, the government, etc.;
- learn more quickly to be present and mindful because of being in a less than positive situation;
- bond with other women in similar situations, maybe even being a support for others because of your experiences;
- become more motivated to make a change to improve your situation;
- make the most of your situation and:
- spend more quality time with your children;
- support unwell or elderly relatives or friends;
- build relationships with neighbors and other parents at your children’s schools;
- volunteer and contribute to your community and charitable organizations;
- take classes, maybe even getting a degree;
- develop useful skills like cooking, sewing, car maintenance, cabinet making, etc.
When you are able to “call forth the positive” you will be able to see more clearly and take the actions to become financially independent.